People Who Aren’t Emotionally Intelligent Will Often Make These 17 Social Mistakes

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By Jonathan Trent

Emotional intelligence allows us to navigate life’s struggles with ease; it permits us to pinpoint, understand, and manage our own emotions and those of others. For those who are interested, people who aren’t emotionally intelligent will often make these 17 critical social mistakes.

Lack of Empathy

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Those without emotional intelligence will fail to consider others’ feelings or perspectives, partially because they can’t understand how other people think. They may even resort to dismissing the emotions or feelings of others, and they will rarely express compassion or understanding, even in difficult situations.

Entitlement Mentality

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Entitlement is common among those who lack emotional intelligence. As The Times highlights, those who do not develop emotional intelligence become “adult children,” grown-ups who display the emotional maturity of a child. They will expect special treatment without earning it, believing they deserve privileges others don’t.

Dominating Conversations

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People lacking emotional intelligence will talk excessively about themselves. Even in conversations, they will revert the topic back to themselves and downplay the achievements of others–it’s not a good look. They may even interrupt others frequently and show little interest in others’ contributions, even when others point it out!

Taking Credit for Others’ Work

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Individuals who lack emotional intelligence may claim responsibility for group achievements even if they haven’t contributed to the team. As they aren’t aware of how this can hurt other people, they won’t acknowledge others’ contributions or may even exaggerate their role in shared successes. It’s all rather selfish!

Disregarding Boundaries

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As they have no social cues, those who struggle with emotional maturity regularly invade other people’s personal space and privacy. They overstep emotional or physical boundaries with no regard for others and won’t pay attention to other people’s wishes or limits. It’s just not something that they understand.

Insensitivity to Others’ Needs

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According to CNBC, the most emotionally intelligent people can access and evoke emotion, understand nonverbal cues, and regulate their feelings to build stronger relationships. Unfortunately, those lacking emotional intelligence will prioritize their own desires over others’ needs and won’t offer support or assistance when needed.

Manipulative Behavior

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Using guilt or coercion to get their way will come second nature to those who aren’t perceptive or mindful of other people. Instead of understanding other people’s feelings, they will play on others’ emotions for personal gain. These people may even twist facts to manipulate situations!

Lack of Accountability

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Careless people avoid taking responsibility for mistakes and even blame others for their shortcomings in situations where they are wrong. Even when it’s obvious that they did wrong, they will still do everything in their power not to say sorry, regularly making excuses instead of owning up.


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Callous individuals will focus solely on their own interests and goals and rarely consider how their actions impact others. Psychology Today notes that emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, assess, and manage one’s own emotions, the emotions of others, and those of groups, so it’s no surprise they’re so self-centered. 

Inability to Compromise

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Refusing to find a middle ground in conflicts is something that emotionally immature people do. They will insist on having things their way as they refrain from considering others’ perspectives in decision-making. Rather than reaching a mutual decision, they will suit themselves regardless of others, which is unfair. 

Lack of Genuine Relationships

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Individuals devoid of emotional intelligence often struggle to understand and regulate their own emotions, making it challenging to navigate the emotions of others. Consequently, they face hurdles in forging authentic bonds, as they may encounter difficulties in empathizing, communicating, and resolving conflicts, stunting their relationships.

Frequent Flakiness

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Flaky behavior consistently damages relationships; it signals a lack of reliability and commitment, causing others to feel undervalued or unimportant. Over time, people may distance themselves from someone who frequently cancels plans or fails to follow through on commitments, and can you really blame them?!

Emotional Volatility

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Individuals deficient in emotional intelligence frequently experience pronounced fluctuations in their emotional states, contributing to a pattern of volatility in their interactions and relationships. Without effective emotional management skills, they may experience sudden and intense mood fluctuations and react impulsively to various situations. 

Disrespect for Others’ Time

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Harvard Business Review reveals that a critical component of emotional intelligence is self-awareness—the ability to recognize respectful behaviors in the moment. Not doing so may manifest in consistently showing up late or keeping others waiting because the person doesn’t value others’ time or emotions–it’s incredibly self-centered. 

Lack of Genuine Interest

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Without emotional intelligence, emotionally unintelligent individuals will be disinterested in other people’s lives. They may pretend they are interested, but you will be able to spot their inauthenticity as they won’t ask follow-up questions in conversations and may change the conversation when other people speak about their experiences.

Difficulty in Handling Criticism

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Emotionally unintelligent people will react defensively or aggressively to feedback, even when it is constructive. Even when someone is trying to help them, they will react angrily and may even blame others for their own shortcomings. It’s sad because if they listened, perhaps they would grow to be more emotionally intelligent!


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Finally, emotional incompetence will generally stop someone from being authentic. They will present a facade to hide their true thoughts or feelings, and their words may conflict with their actions. Acting differently around different people for personal gain will also be something that they will do, demonstrating zero consistency in their character.

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